Psychologist Deborah South Richardson claims that people are more prone to commit acts of aggression on individuals they have a close relationship with rather than strangers. Indeed, these relationships – whether real or perceived – have more significance in our lives than casual encounters and, as a result, prompt deeper emotions than the polite and superficial sensations of daily interactions. So, we are more willing to show anger toward a loved one rather than a stranger. Yet, what would spawn the unsavory actions of Salomé or Kumagai Naozane? According to Aaron Ben-Ze’ev, the pang of rejection is a powerful factor: “A lack of reciprocity – this is, the knowledge that the one you love does not love you – is painful and humiliating, because it is a profound blow to your self-esteem. Unrequited love is painful and this pain can drive you to hurt the one you love.” Hence, as Richardson emphasizes, we are more emotionally involved with the relationships closest to us and, as Ben-Ze’ev highlights, the humiliation caused when these feelings are not reciprocated can lead to aggression and the desire to inflict pain. In typical circumstances, as Ben-Ze’ev and Richardson explain, this backlash occurs through biting words or slight passive-aggressive actions. In rare instances marred by severe co-dependency or psychological delusions (Mathilde’s detrimental fascination with Julien, for example), unstable individuals, Ben-Ze’ev and Richardson argue, will perform irrational acts to inflict upon someone the pain of rejection. In the case of Salomé and her peers, it is the head of their disinterested infatuation on a silver platter.
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